Do you find similarities between yourself and Sunny?
Sunny is 32 years old and has a few friends at his workplace. He has had 2 relationships in the past but both of them ended due to his anger issues. Both of them were initiated and ended by the girls. He lacks confidence when it comes to relationships but also claims that they would argue a lot in both the relationships. He is close to his sister’s children but has issues with her as well. He had a volatile relationship with her over the past 4 years.
In his relationships he recounted patterns of jealousy and anger. He constantly thinks that his exes cheated on him and hence, left him. He claims to love nobody because nobody loves him.
Previously Sunny tried to seek help from his family doctor concerning recurrent feelings of anger but wasn’t taken seriously. The anger is sometimes directed at his partner or random strangers. He says it could be stemming from the relationship issues between his mother and father. In addition, there have been prolonged period of rumination concerning his appearance in front of other people. He says, “I can’t control my anger. People don’t like me.” A similar theme appeared at his workplace where he pushed a colleague when he brought up a sensitive topic regarding his mother. This was an instance when Sunny acted on his anger at work. His other memories recounted of verbal anger instead. He admitted to frequently feeling like smashing someone when they annoy him. He believes that people’s actions are usually designed to provoke him so they could talk about him later behind his back. He constantly feels that people are talking about him. He harbours negative feelings towards his mother since he was a teenager. At the age of 16 he told her that he ‘hates’ her. He is often disturbed by this memory. He hasn’t been able to distract himself successfully and ends up screaming and shouting or punching walls. He feels unable to handle distress. He wonders if there are hormonal imbalances which makes him so angry.
Sunny is seeking anger management which usually lasts for 12 weeks. He seems motivated to engage with therapy. His sister’s children are a major factor towards working on his mental health as he would like to have his own kids someday. He tries to be reflective and insightful to new psychological approaches which gets him out of his comfort zone. If you found similarities between your case and Sunny’s, our team would be able to help you.
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