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What Is Therapy?

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Therapy is a safe and non-judgemental space to project your thoughts and feelings. It’s a set of interventions and communicative experiences to enhance your wellbeing. They are physical, mental and emotional. We explore past memories, present emotions and future objectives  over a few sessions. The process is to make you feel free and fresh. Its a results based approach. You will be able to direct your self-awareness to achieve positive impact and internal harmony.

How much information can the therapist/psychologist disclose about themselves?

It is a general code to keep the therapy one-directional. Therapists adhere to a client-centred approach to make sure the therapeutic sessions are directed towards your personal wellbeing. You can ask your therapist about their years of experience and other personal details but remember therapy is essentially about you. We aim to prioritise your wellbeing.

How does writing therapy help?

Writing about yourself stimulates parts of the brain that are not stimulated by talking. Talking helps express emotions better. You always have the backspace button with writing therapy which helps you use words that fit your situation to the best of your ability. It’s quite the same if you prefer to write with a pencil, you always have the eraser, right at the back. Language is the most essential mindfulness tool in therapy. Currently, we provide writing therapy only in English. This is mostly because your brain is positively impacted when it switches to a different language.

Expressive writing helps bring about self-awareness and mental rejuvenation. Since the left hemisphere of the brain is activated, you train your brain to to work efficiently without getting burnt-out. A relaxed and active brain helps reduce SAD symptoms (stress, anxiety & depression) and breaks creative blocks.

Hold a second. Is it the same as Written Therapy?

Both writing and written therapy are expressive therapies. However, how different therapists approach your situation at hand is slightly different.  At any point of time in your written therapy you can request a one-to-one session with your therapist. Your therapist might be trained in Gestalt, Ganzfeld, Psychotherapy, CBT, MBT, REBT, ACT or other similar mix of words.

We provide Ganzfeld Effect Therapy which is a specialisation field of Gestalt Psychology. In writing therapy, you and your therapist always communicate in writing (sometimes anonymously) or through suggestions based journal therapy.

The process is quite simple with WHJ Written Therapy Online

  1. Write about the presenting problem or conflicting thought.
    This refers to anything that is making you feel quite unbalanced in the last few days. Your therapist will personally ask you about the previous weeks, months, years and situations depending on your presenting problem. Some questions may be easy to answer and some others may require you to take some time to think. Be easy on yourself and remember this is a process.
  2. Exchange emails with your therapist.
    S/he will format your individual therapy plan along with our medical advisor. You will be given prompts to write about which will help your therapist understand you better and chart a therapy outline. You will be required to submit the Informed Consent. Through written therapy, you and your therapist will be able to keep a track of your Wellness and Health Journey intervention structure.
  3. Discuss which issue specifically requires a one-to-one virtually session.
    This will be for 30-60 minutes. Your therapist will ask you to elaborate on the specific issue. You will also practice with some self-touch and no-touch energetic healing tools and techniques. It is not necessary to schedule a virtual call with your therapist if you are not comfortable.
  4. Before ending your therapy, discuss a date with to set targets to achieve personal goals.
    The first and last written sessions are the most important since they shape your Wellness and Health Journey and also mark the time period of self-growth. You don’t want to miss the recap of your progress.

How does Written Therapy help prevent trauma?

SAD symptoms have a knack to induce trauma if not treated with therapy for a long period of time. Trauma is remembered by your body and sometimes forgotten by your brain. They can appear in other ways such as increased or decreased blood pressure, heart rate, body weight, body heat, unhealthy diet or mood swings. Do you have any of these symptoms or feel emotional blocks? If the answer is yes, you might have been exposed to trauma. Talk to your therapist about these symptoms or any other which are currently bothering you.

Your psychologist is your therapy specialist is your psychologist is your therapy specialist. Take a few extra seconds and read that again, but this time slowly.

Sometimes our family and friends can help us, sometimes they can’t. For those tricky feelings that stress, depress or make us anxious, we bring to you your Wellness and Health Journey FREE written therapy.

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Nikita’s Journey into Therapy

Nikita’s Journey into Therapy

For Anney

Needless to say, last year has been an absolute shit show. It was quite literally the most stressful I’ve ever been in my life and getting out of it has taken a lot of conscious effort. 

In March of 2020, right before the lockdown in India, I had a pretty sorted life. I had a job I loved, a wonderful apartment, a great set of friends and a loving partner. But in a matter of months literally everything unravelled. 

It began with my parents getting no income because of the lockdown. I was stuck in my hometown away from where I’ve been living for the last 6 years. I used to work for a travel company, so while I was lucky to still have a job (especially since about 40% of my company was furloughed), I hated the role I was given due to the reorganization that consequently happened. I was suddenly in a long distance relationship with no prep and things were just hard. No one really saw it coming and no one knew how long it was going to last for. 

3 months later, there was still not much change in the situation. But I went back to Bangalore where I was living and met my boyfriend and started looking for another job. I luckily got a much better offer and things were beginning to look better for me. However things at home were getting worse and there was a lot of guilt associated with staying alone and spending so much money when I could be back home and support my family that has 4 adults. So after much protest from my boyfriend, I packed all my things and moved back home. 

That put a real strain on my relationship. Things at home was very stressful and I became the mediator between all the adults fighting at home. Literally everything made me cry and I felt helpless and my boyfriend started shutting me out at this very point which ultimately pushed me over my limit. I knew I needed help and my friends were wonderful. They were always there for me if I wanted to talk. But if you are anything like me, even that started making me feel guilty because I didn’t want to depend on them too much, because I’m sure they had things happening in their life too and I was in no situation to support them. 

I finally turned to therapy. I just needed someone to talk to. To help me sort out all the stress, anxiety and fear I was feeling. When I started therapy I knew a break up with my boyfriend was inevitable and it did happen. I was depressed for the next couple of months and I was constantly crying and lost a lot of weight. And this was not something I could talk about with my family. I had completely lost sight of who I was as a person which was a huge shock in itself, because I have always had a very strong sense of self. 

I had very flexible working hours and I was anyway working from home, so it was becoming hard to differentiate day and night, weekdays and weekends. Therapy was something that I started looking forward to. It was a much needed pause to an otherwise endless blob. Recollecting the past week helped when there is an active listener making note of everything that I say and guiding me through it, one step at a time. Therapy really helped me go back to who I was. It helped me figure out what I can compromise on and what I cannot. It helped me set boundaries and not feel guilty about things that were not my fault. It helped me accept the fact that I cannot control everything happening around me and it really just helped me during a very hard time in my life. 

This was 7 months ago and a lot has happened since then. My parents are still financially strained, but things are better after making some hard decisions. I took a solo trip for a month, just to get a change in environment that really really helped me. By A LOT. I applied for my masters and am all set to begin in the next few months. After struggling with my new job in the beginning with everything else that was happening in my life, it’s currently going really well. My ex boyfriend also reached out to me wanting to fix things and while that is gonna take more time, we are working on figuring things out. 

The past year was difficult but I have learnt a lot about myself as a person. It came with a lot of hard lessons and through it all, I have continued therapy. 

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Tjard’s Apprenticeship as an Electrician

Tjard’s Apprenticeship as an Electrician

Hello! I am Tjard and I have lived on the island of Sylt in Germany all 20 years of my life. If I would not live here I would probably be way happier. I am fine with any pronouns used on me but feel uncomfortable at the idea of expressing myself about it here. I have some reasons for this like my uncle(that lives on the “property”) who just before my apprenticeship started, “warned” me about a “man” who outside of work hours wears dresses. Also, the co-worker I am on tour with most of the time, once told me he would be very disappointed in seeing me date a man. He is my direct neighbour. He is hard to deal with most days and drains me. I theoretically like what I work as and it can be really rewarding and get me really really happy. I am an electrician’s apprentice. I like the diagnosis and repair of home appliances and love to see “historic” home appliances on which this is the easiest.

I understand the need for more efficient appliances, maybe just more sustainable but what I see in modern devices does not seem in any way more sustainable to me. They use more electronic components which are prone to failure and are “repaired” by replacement. This is expensive and resource intensive. Our global recycling does not recover all resources and is energy intensive. I am pretty certain that the longevity of the historic devices outweigh the environmental harm done by their “excessive” use of water and electricity. The need of our capitalist system to grow has incentivised companies to lower the lifetime of devices and make it harder to repair them. It is really depressing to see/hear how people’s right to repair their own property has limited everyone. They should have easy access to repair tutorials and resources to do so.

I decided to learn about electronics around the age of 13 and started working at the age of 19. There are a couple of reasons for this. My family had financial hardships in the past and this job pays decently and feels really secure to me understandably. The interest in physical labour here has dropped so far that there is serious lack of personnel everywhere so it will be easy to find employment anywhere and will get me to a point where I can go to uni without needing to go into debt. I always had some interest in this and it just gives me even further independence by being able to fix any electrical problems I personally encounter with ease.

One recommendation I have for anyone that has come this far is to go to their distribution box and look if there is any device that says “test it regularly”, and well, just test it. They might also be built into sockets primarily in bathrooms. This would probably be a residual circuit breaker (RCD) and it is one of the few ways to protect people from death by electrocution and I find them really important.

This post has been written over around 2 hours. I like writing about myself and will continue with introducing myself further and going over to the previous chapters of my life at high school, which I could probably write many thousands of words over and still continue with this topic but I think 500 words of my incoherent rambling is more than enough.

Title your post as “Do Not Publish:” if you want to use whjonline.com and talk to our therapist for free self-therapy but don’t wish to publish sensitive information.

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Sunny’s Case – Anger

Sunny’s Case – Anger

Do you find similarities between yourself and Sunny?

Sunny is 32 years old and has a few friends at his workplace. He has had 2 relationships in the past but both of them ended due to his anger issues. Both of them were initiated and ended by the girls. He lacks confidence when it comes to relationships but also claims that they would argue a lot in both the relationships. He is close to his sister’s children but has issues with her as well. He had a volatile relationship with her over the past 4 years.

In his relationships he recounted patterns of jealousy and anger. He constantly thinks that his exes cheated on him and hence, left him. He claims to love nobody because nobody loves him.

Previously Sunny tried to seek help from his family doctor concerning recurrent feelings of anger but wasn’t taken seriously. The anger is sometimes directed at his partner or random strangers. He says it could be stemming from the relationship issues between his mother and father. In addition, there have been prolonged period of rumination concerning his appearance in front of other people. He says, “I can’t control my anger. People don’t like me.” A similar theme appeared at his workplace where he pushed a colleague when he brought up a sensitive topic regarding his mother. This was an instance when Sunny acted on his anger at work. His other memories recounted of verbal anger instead. He admitted to frequently feeling like smashing someone when they annoy him. He believes that people’s actions are usually designed to provoke him so they could talk about him later behind his back. He constantly feels that people are talking about him. He harbours negative feelings towards his mother since he was a teenager. At the age of 16 he told her that he ‘hates’ her. He is often disturbed by this memory. He hasn’t been able to distract himself successfully and ends up screaming and shouting or punching walls. He feels unable to handle distress. He wonders if there are hormonal imbalances which makes him so angry.

Sunny is seeking anger management which usually lasts for 12 weeks. He seems motivated to engage with therapy. His sister’s children are a major factor towards working on his mental health as he would like to have his own kids someday. He tries to be reflective and insightful to new psychological approaches which gets him out of his comfort zone. If you found similarities between your case and Sunny’s, our team would be able to help you.

Personal details have been changed to preserve confidentiality.